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“How we believe is how we perceive” is a very important and enlightening statement. It was certainly true of my life in the past. As I explain in my book, due to abuse I suffered earlier in my life, I believed I was damaged beyond repair and a good life wasn’t in the cards for me. So because of that belief, basically all my perceptions were skewed so my decision making was less than ideal. Looking back I see that I rarely saw a situation for what it actually was.

The biggest problem with that was if I was misinterpreting a situation, how could I ever make the healthiest choice for my future! Misinterpreting is such an understatement in terms of its effect. I spent years being misdirected by my own beliefs and perceptions. Think about that for a moment. It’s really hard to see a situation you’re in any way other than how you feel because you just assume, since you’re feeling it, it must be real.

But trust me, that is not always the case. If you find that you seem to “consistent bad luck” and find yourself in difficult situations over and over again, it very well may be because your perception is skewed so you’re making decisions for your future based on incorrect data. If that’s the case, it is time to grab the reigns, do some soul searching and make some hard decisions about how you are going to change your beliefs and your perceptions, thus your future.

If you’ve read my book or my other articles, you know I’m a big believer in leaving the past in the past, except as a learning tool. I don’t want anyone to think I’m minimizing any past experiences because I am not. I understand the evil a person can encounter, the grief of losing someone that was a a part of you, or the pain of another kind of life changing event.

But I will say that finally stepping up to the plate to see things clearer in order to make better choices in my life said, “fuck you” to the evil people I’ve encountered and at the same time says, “I love you and thank you” to the people I lost that I cared about deeply and were a part of me, in addition to the good people still in my life.

In case you haven’t read my previous material, I am an advocate for therapy. I learned through therapy how to be truly and deeply honest and how to change my perceptions and make better choices.

If you want to reach out for help and don’t know where to start, look at the RESOURCES page on my website, Duofounded.com.


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